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Jul. 27th, 2017 09:36 am
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Hello, hello. It's back to work I am (since yesterday) but today I'm in a daylong HR intensive course, which means I get to spend the day with about 50 super funny, super smart women coz the face of health care is women. At least that's my observation of all the health care organizations I've worked in.

[personal profile] hanarobi and I saw a lot of good stuff while she was here! We watched:
- Both Bahubali and Bahubali 2 movies, the second one we watched twice and that's without any English subtitles. I think the second movie is going to be available for purchase this coming Tuesday! So in love with Prabhas!
- We went to see Wonder Woman and adored it. I even watched the new trailer for the Justice League because of Gal Gadot being in it.
- We binge-watched the first season of Stranger Things Monday night/Tuesday early morning. Can't wait for the second season!

What we did not get done during H's visit:
- Sadly no story was written for poor [personal profile] claudia603. We spent hours and hours building the head canon and taking notes on H's phone, but sadly we never really wrote anything. Sorry C! No crackfic for you this time though maybe we'll get inspired. It really was a great idea.

I have decided a different punishment for the old white Christian men who are trying to keep the world in their image. I think the tribunal will still be the same, but I think I have an interesting punishment. Put them in stocks and invite people to slap their turkey wattle jowls. Paddles supplied if you don't want to touch their squicky flesh.

Yep.

PEDTM: Day 26

Jul. 26th, 2017 08:34 pm
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[personal profile] mirabile
Hurray, the electrician came! And he worked really hard and charged less than his estimate! We like him, so so much more than the electrician our contractor had hired. We have already started another list of things for him to do -- in about a year or so. Tomorrow our contractor will be back and theoretically there's only a day or two at most for him to do and then we. Are. THROUGH.

I was up early to swim my laps and then mostly hung around with Webster while the electrician worked. I made peach cobbler and lentil-rice soup, did some laundry, read, and watched Master of Lies, about Bernie Madoff. That was such a creepy movie. I also listened to some early episodes of My Favorite Murder and it was interesting listening to Karen and Georgia figure out how to work the podcast.

Now I'm in bed and about to listen to the latest Magnus Archives episode. I need to write about that podcast. It is so beautifully written and performed, and I've grown to care so much about the characters, and am so curious and a little worried about what will happen next.

Webster discovered this beautifully written essay, The Geologic Origin of the Sonoran Desert. I'm about halfway through but will re-read it, I can tell. That's where we live now, by the way: in the Sonoran Desert. It's a hot, mean place, nothing like the loving green of home.

PEDTM: Day 25

Jul. 25th, 2017 09:55 pm
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[personal profile] mirabile
At last, a fairly quiet day! Had a nice early morning with Webster, then off to spend a few hours with Mother. We mostly sat and talked, though around noon I took her to the independent living part of her assisted living facility, to the cafe there. She had a chocolate milkshake and I had a bowl of (very good) tomato soup. Then we rolled around visiting places I hoped she would remember: the library she used to work in and the gift shop she used to keep the books for. She seemed to come in and out of the memories. Then we went to look at the door of her original apartment, where she lived for her first eleven years, and on a whim knocked on the door of her oldest friend, who was there. So we had a nice chat and plan to get together for lunch in a couple of weeks.

After we returned to her apartment and sat for a bit longer, I came home where I collapsed for a while. Never did practice my ukulele but I did play piano for about thirty minutes, and we worked in the yard despite the heat. When the sun went down enough we jumped in the pool to cool off.

Tomorrow the electrician is supposed to be here; fingers crossed.

Right now: sleep. I can barely keep my eyes open.

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Jul. 25th, 2017 11:06 am
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Some Harry spam. Click on thumbnail to see full-sized pic. Sorry about the rug! I vacuumed up a large glass bead that H just dislodged this morning lol.





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Jul. 25th, 2017 10:08 am
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Flower pics H took walking from the room down to the beach. So much in bloom!

Fireweed and fuchsia.


several more )

PEDTM: Day 24

Jul. 24th, 2017 06:39 pm
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Another difficult day. In fact, I just told Webster: I have hit the wall. I need to curl up and just be for a while, you know? He knew.

Today we saw the neurologist our primary care physician recommended. She was a bit chillier than I would have liked, but she did seem to listen. The issues are several, according to her. Biggest is that neurology no longer recommends any narcotics for migraine pain. Which is, imo, stupid as shit, but hey. My doctorate is in literature so what do I know. Anyway, she has referred Webster to a pain management specialist (he used to be a surgeon according to his bio), whom she says will write the Rx for pain meds. She repeated several times that she does not believe he will refuse Webster the demerol, because he has used it successfully for almost twenty years now.

However -- and we have no issue with this -- her goal is to find a prophylactic that will prevent the migraines and therefore obviate any need for pain meds. Unfortunately the very first choice is something Webster tried years ago and hated (Topomax). She still wrote him a Rx for it because it's now time-released, but he has decided not to even try it. I'm a little hesitant about that decision, but it's his life and his health so I'll support him.

It turns out she is a big believer in Botox for migraines. Has anyone tried that? She says most insurance companies are hesitant to approve it because it's expensive, but she is going to start working on them. Webster is interested in trying it, so that's good. We have another appointment with her in about three weeks so he'll tell her about his decision then, and we should hear about our insurance company's decision at the same time.

Best of all she says something new is coming out in January that she is really excited about. I knew immediately what she was referring to: Calcitonin Gene-Related Peptide (CGRP). I've been reading about it for years. So even if the Botox doesn't work (and apparently it takes nine months before you know if it does) there's something new to try.

Theoretically the pain management people will call us in a day or two to set up an appointment. We are both very very nervous about that. We've had so many bad experiences with doctors over the years. Kaiser Permanente was a god-send and leaving it was the hardest thing about moving here. Why the shit Kaiser isn't everywhere I cannot understand, but it isn't so we're stuck for a while. The stories I could tell you about our pre-Kaiser doctor experiences would, I assure you, freak. You. Out. So I won't because I don't like remembering them.

The best thing about today was that it rained! Really rained, a nice steady rain. The air smells wonderful. No more rain in the forecast for a while, so I'm glad we were driving around in it.

In a few minutes I'm going to pour myself a small glass of pinot grigio and listen to the latest My Favorite Murder podcast. I don't feel ready for another Mother's day tomorrow so I need to get some rest.

Links! I have two today. First, via Jason Kottke, a ten hour (TEN HOUR!) Youtube of wonderful nature sounds -- I'm listening to the ocean. God, I miss the ocean. There are others, too; you can read about them here.

Also via Kottke, a series of very short stories concerning how you knew you'd found your person. I found some of them charming, some of them sad. And of course they made me think about my relationship with Webster, which is, I think, a good solid relationship but I'm not sure I believe in having a person in the sense the author meant. Do you?

Finally, not a link but thoughts I've been having a lot lately: how much I miss home. I love our house and I love being so close to Mother, but I miss the west coast. Achingly so. I miss the ocean. I miss how near Yosemite was. I miss our vacations in the eastern Sierra. I miss my friends. I miss the fog. I miss the wine country rituals. I miss Kaiser. I miss how Democrat it is! I miss it all so so much.

And while thinking that I realized that I also miss my mother. The woman I spend so much time with is of course my mother, but she's not the woman I grew up with, who owned two business and traveled the world and played golf and cards and had parties. She's gone forever.

Okay, now I've made myself cry. I think I better get that wine. You all have a good night, okay?

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Jul. 23rd, 2017 08:53 pm
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View from the path to the beach looking back to our room, upper left, this morning.


View from the path looking the other way :-)

PEDTM: Day 23

Jul. 23rd, 2017 06:43 pm
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[personal profile] mirabile
Oh my goodness, but there's a BIG WIND and lots of rain right now! Really serious. The lights have flickered enough that Alexa is confused, so we've unplugged the computers in case there's a power surge. As you see, we still have power and internet, thank goodness. I really really hope we don't lose them! Especially because despite the rain it's still 94F/34C which is a tad warm to go without air conditioning. At least we have screened windows now, after the remodel, so we could open things up.

We had a quiet day, thank goodness. I'm sure Webster and I are still trying to recover from the confusion of that call from the doctor's office on Thursday, plus tomorrow we see the new neurologist he recommended. We are both very nervous about meeting her. I hope she's a listener. Oh well.

Ooh, I think I saw the lights flicker again. I'll post this just in case and keep my fingers crossed. I wish you could see the color of the sky right now, and hear the wind howling -- no, it's more like growling. Plus thunder.

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Jul. 23rd, 2017 10:03 am
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Poll #18606 Claudia's Fic
Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 14


Name Claudia's Fic!

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Dive, seacats! Dive!
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Dive! Seacats! Dive!
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Saw a deer yesterday on the property ...

PEDTM: Day 22

Jul. 22nd, 2017 09:25 pm
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Saturdays are Mother's days, so I put together a little picnic for us (chicken salad sandwich, pickles, Bud) and took it to her along with her clean clothes. I started doing her laundry back in late April and it's working out well: I pick them up on Thursday, I wash on Friday, and return them on Saturday. I feel better about doing it myself than having the assisted living facility's laundry do it because Mother has such nice clothes, plus some pieces had disappeared. Now if they disappear it's my fault :)

When I arrived, she was still in her nightie but in her recliner. They had brought her breakfast and she'd eaten that, but she still ate one of the cinnamon rolls I'd made. She said she was tired and not feeling quite right, so we just sat and talked and listened to some Doris Day. My sister and her wife called as usual and we chatted for quite a while. Mother just closed her eyes and listened for most of it. Around noon I brought out the picnic and she ate about a quarter of the sandwich, some pickles, and drank almost all the Bud. I stayed until around 1:30 and hated to leave, but I was tired and a bit worried about Webster. I reminded her, as I always do, that she could have one of the nurses call me if she wanted. Ach. It's so hard to leave.

Anyway, came home and found Webster had had a very quiet day, too, which he certainly needed after the stress of the last two days. I had left him a sandwich so he had that and soup, and for dinner I made waffles. I needed some comfort food, you know? And I love waffles.

That was really my day. I did practice a little ukulele and played one song on the piano, but that was it. I finally watched Hidden Figures, which was excellent but hard to watch -- I had to stop several times and walk around because it was so upsetting.

Oh! I wore my new My Favorite Murder tee shirt! It says: Stay Sexy, Don't Get Murdered. Mother got a kick out of it. She must have asked me three times what it said and each time it made her laugh. Don't get murdered! she'd say; that's good advice!

PEDTM: Day 21

Jul. 21st, 2017 07:53 pm
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Golly, did I choose a month for posting every day. Sorry. But today was pretty rugged. After that horrible phone call from Webster's doctor's office yesterday, he was a big mess. I was too, but not as much. He was unable to sleep and spent most of the night writing and re-writing a letter to his doctor pointing out the absurdity of getting in trouble because he did NOT have demerol in his blood.

We had to be at the car repair place by 7am, so we were up early anyway. I proofread his letter, made a couple suggestions he did not take, formatted it, and printed it out. He put in in a envelope with the doctor's name and URGENT: PLEASE READ on it.

Off to the car repair (which was to replace the visor on the driver's side and to install a retractable sun shade a friend had given us after visiting here) and then to Home Depot to buy replacement "coach lights" -- apparently that's the name of the sconces on either side of garage doors. Who knew? We swung by the doctor's, which had opened by then, and dropped off the letter, Webster making it very clear to the receptionist that he was upset and angry and "urgent" was really urgent to him.

When we got home I finally was able to get some food into him. He took a bath (to soothe him) and tried to nap but without any success. In the early afternoon he finally said: We need to buy a TV for the den. Which is true! I've been doing research because I never watch TV and the two little TVs we own are the old-fashioned CRT types. The technology has changed a bit. Anyway, I knew I wanted an LG and that it should be HD (high definition). We finally chose an LG HD LED-LCD, that's 4K. I had no idea what 4K meant but apparently it's really new technology. Whatevs. As long as Webster can watch TV that's all that matters. On Wednesday an electrician will be out to install the coach lights and the new TV, plus a few other things, so we are now ready for him.

I sincerely hope that is the last thing we have to buy for a while. So the electrician comes on Wednesday and the construction guy on Thursday and maybe that will be it for, like, twelve years. I hope.

We got home and I finished making another batch of cinnamon rolls (oh year, I started the levain last night and the rolls were rising while we were shopping). I fixed dinner and left Webster to eat his then ran over to the clubhouse gym. The minute I stepped on the treadmill I pulled out my phone to listen to The Essex Serpent -- and there was a voicemail from the doctor. So I emailed Webster to call him, and then ran back home to be there.

To our surprise, we were put straight through to one of his assistants who apologized and explained that the test results were really confusing, and she had had to go to the doctor to figure out what they meant, and that the doctor apologized for all the distress this had caused. I thought Webster was going to cry with relief, and we both thanked her profusely while she apologized again and again. Thank god.

But as soon as we hung up, a migraine tsunami washed over poor Webster and he is down with one of the worst he's had in months and months. As bad as in the pre-medicine days. I ended up working out in the new den using an aerobics video I illegally downloaded, and then swam for a little bit before coming in to shower. Then I cleaned up the kitchen and took the trash out. When I was out, the wind was calm and the sky mostly clear. Almost as soon as I stepped back into the kitchen, an enormous wind blew up and my phone started buzzing, sending me warnings about a storm.

The same thing happened last night. It was a calm and clear evening when I was in the pool. I came inside and by the time we went to bed I was hearing thunder. Then rain! A huge rain, too, really pounding down. No wonder it's 50% humidity outside these days.

But the kitchen is clean, Webster is dozing quietly, and I'm going to listen to my book for a while. I hope you have had a much calmer day than we have.

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Jul. 21st, 2017 09:53 am
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Greetings flist!

We saw Wonder Woman yesterday. I cried through the whole thing. A little pleased with myself for remaining completely unspoiled except for no cats on Themyscira. I was rigorous about not clicking on a single link or cut tag and my flist is so thoughtful about using cuts, thank you! Gal Gadot is beyond glorious. This movie needs a Best Picture Oscar nomination. Etta reminds me of [profile] lorie945. I actually finally have a superhero movie I love :-)

H and I are leaving for the beach in a couple hours, I just got new tires put on the front so Catbus is good to go.

I was sitting in the Les Schwab tire store when I saw the news on tv about that asshole Spicer resigning. I had no self control, I just burst into loud guffaws and couldn't stop for about five minutes.

Yesterday morning Harry tried to pee on some clothes in [personal profile] hanarobi's room. I thwarted him and he ran outside. I followed him to watch him pee in the dirt and spend about five minutes ostentatiously covering it up with a pile of leaves.

PEDTM: Day 20

Jul. 20th, 2017 05:57 pm
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I am so glad to be home, sitting quietly. It was too big a day, again.

I was a tad late to Mother's because Webster and I were on hold with his GP's office while they tried to find his file so they could tell us why they left a voicemail for him yesterday. Finally they asked to call back, but I just had to leave for Mother's so Webster told them to tell me, and I left.

To my surprise, when I got there Mother was gone. I asked the floor nurse where she was and he said, BINGO. Bingo? But she's blind? Well, someone is helping her. I was thrilled, though pretty surprised, but I went back to the room to start arranging the flowers I'd brought her.

My sister called then and she also marveled at BINGO? I don't think Mother's ever played a game of Bingo in her life! At that moment a therapist rolled Mother back in: turns out she was at her first occupational therapy session. They did an assessment, checked the X-Ray, and the diagnosis is de Quervains tenosynovitis, and you say that five times fast! It's a sort of tendonitis, very similar to carpal tunnel, and they think her wheelchair is too high so she has to push with her hands too much. They are going to lower her chair a big, plus do therapy, and I had to buy her a right-handed thumb spica splint. So not a fracture, thank goodness, and now maybe she'll start recovering a bit.

No Bingo, though :)

After we talked for a while, I took her to Olive Garden for a gin and tonic and a bowl of her favorite soup, zuppa toscana. She only ate about half the bowl, which worries me, but she had eaten a couple of the cookies I'd brought her, plus some candy my sister had sent from Hawaii, so presumably she got enough calories. I hope.

When we were back in her apartment, I discovered I had missed a call from the GP's office, so I called back while I was with her and sat chatting until someone finally came on. The conversation was very distressing and, imo, almost incoherent. This wasn't a doctor, I think she was a clerk? But she didn't really identify herself. At any rate, if I understood her, Webster is in trouble because his bloodwork showed he did NOT have any demerol in him.

I explained (why is this not obvious?) that he only takes the demerol when all his other migraine drugs don't work. She said (I think she said) that the instructions are to take them everyday, so he isn't following the instructions. The implication being he must be abusing them? Selling them?

Foolishly I tried to discuss this with her but quickly realized she was both 1) ignorant and 2) hostile, so what the hell. I told her that, per the doctor's instructions, Webster had an appointment this Monday with a neurologist that the doc had recommended and another appointment with the doc in ten days to follow-up. She sounded bored.

Well, you can imagine how I felt, so double or triple that and you can imagine how Webster took the news. NOT WELL. He has drafted a letter to the doc and will continue to work on it, but I dunno. When he last saw the doctor, he was told that the doctor had received a letter from the DEA saying that he, the doctor, wasn't permitted to prescribe anymore narcotics. Today we hear something completely different.

I know the DEA is being extremely heavy-handed about narcotics, so maybe the doctor is just CYAing?

Anyway, we were worried enough about meeting the new neurologist (we have seen so many over the years), and now he's extra worried. Perfect migraine recipe! My god, do I miss Kaiser Permanente in California.

Okay, enough droning on about my weird day. When I got home, I had a glass of wine, made potato soup and vanilla pudding, and now I'm going to take a long cool shower and read.

Oh, a link! I haven't spent a lot of time with this, but it looks fun: the most iconic book set in every country. You have to scroll down a bit but they really do mean every country. I think a better title would be "the most iconic book IN ENGLISH in every country," though.
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